Co-parenting Apps

Divorcing parents face new challenges.  Some do this well. They leave the lines of communication open and are genuinely able to separate marital problems from parenting issues so that kids still see both parents as a united front, supporting them. That is where you want to be, and if you're not there yet, you need to get there. But when parents are so hostile to one another that allegations start flying back and forth, it may be a good idea to try out one of the below apps for communication with the other parent in writing.

There is a lot of sound research that says exposing kids to parental conflict is not just bad, it can actually have long-term effects on their brains' hard-wiring.  Kids who have experienced nasty divorces are more likely to have their own problems relating to others, empathizing with them, and may even have higher rates of substance abuse.  So the bottom line is whatever you have to do NOT put your children in the middle, do it.  The apps below are frequently used by divorcing couples who cannot talk to one another civilly in person or who fear the consequences of not putting their discussions in writing. 

These apps also have the ability to share calendars for kids' events and appointments, share treatment providers' info, and share requests for payments for things like extracurricular activities or other out-of-pocket expenses.  They all have the advantage of saving conversations so that there is no undocumented he said/she said, or at least much less of it.  AppClose has a text messaging service that is like regular texting, but if there is any problem documenting was said, texts can be downloaded for the judge, attorneys, or mediator/arbitrator.  Talking Parents is an email-like platform that organizes conversations by topic (AppClose and Our Family Wizard also have this).  Our Family Wizard, I'm told, has a bunch of bells and whistles and is subscription based.  Check out discounts offered for military service members as these can help.  

https://www.talkingparents.com

https://appclose.com

https://www.ourfamilywizard.com

CLR, CFI, or PRE - Experts

When the court makes decisions regarding parental responsibilities (custody), it may rely upon input from an neutral third party expert.  There are various kinds of custody experts in Colorado: the CLR (Child Legal Representative), a CFI (Child Family Investigator), and a PRE (Parental Responsibilities Evaluator); CFIs are less expensive and state pay is available for low income parents, but the CFIs scope is also more limited than that of a PRE, which can be very expensive and which will include mental health testing of both parents. 

The decision to request an expert of some kind depends upon many factors, but if you're legitimately concerned for your children's safety and welfare, you should discuss the option of hiring an expert with your counsel.  Once appointed, experts can have a big impact on the outcome as they report directly to the court their findings and recommendations.  . 

What's a Dissolution ?

 

A divorce in Colorado is called a Dissolution of Marriage.  Colorado is among a handful of states that also permit Legal Separations, which for military spouses are sometimes a good option for a variety of reasons. 

Colorado laws governing dissolution or legal separation are found in The Uniform Dissolution of Marriage Act, 14-10-101 et seq.   Laws pertaining to paternity, child support, and child custody jurisdiction and enforcement of child custody orders are found in 14-13-101 et seq.; Section 14-5-101 et seq. and 19-4-101 et seq.  There are others but these are the most frequently invoked statutes. 

Where parties not hostile or capable of overcoming major animosity, we do collaborative divorce or legal separation and can undertake limited scope representation to help draw up papers for those who have managed to work together and simply need help executing their agreements.  If you need help simply drawing up an agreement, we do not represent either party, and this is something that needs to be understood and agreed to by both spouses.